If you are unexpectedly hit with a divorce it can literally leave you reeling, however even if you have known a divorce was in your future for some time, you can still find it difficult to even get up in the mornings. You are grieving the loss of a relationship, a way of life, a future you thought you wanted. Some days it may feel strange to you that the world keeps moving on even though you are in the midst of a complicated, stressful, sad situation. You still have to go to work, take care of your children if you are a parent, clean the house, fill up the car with gas, go grocery shopping and do the laundry.
You must take care of yourself during this stressful time in order to continue to do the things you need to do. The attorneys at The Law Place are well aware of the stress involved in your divorce and will work hard to alleviate as much anxiety and tension in your life as possible. We are skilled in the art of negotiation and will do our best to work out an equitable agreement between you and your spouse. If this is just not possible, we are well-prepared to go before a judge and argue on your behalf.
Take note of the following ways you can take care of yourself after your divorce:
• Pay closer attention to your health. Get more sleep, eat healthy foods, get plenty of exercise, take long walks outside, and drink lots of water. Exercise causes your body to release endorphins which are considered “feel good” hormones.
• Give yourself time to grieve, and then move on. Holding on to bitterness and anger will not hurt your ex, but it will hurt you. Staying mired in the past interferes with your ability to find a new future. While it’s okay to feel the natural emotions associated with your divorce, at some point you must move past those emotions and let go. If you have children, letting go of those emotions is especially important.
• Take care of yourself financially by staying on top of your finances, making a budget—and sticking to it. If you are constantly worrying about your finances, you will not be able to experience the good things that are coming your way.
• Find your adventurous side! Try new things, and work on rebuilding your life. Determine what your new life will be like then work toward that goal. Take up a new hobby and spend time with friends.
• Don’t jump into your next relationship—this is not what “moving on” is all about. If you are not emotionally ready, you will end up making poor relationship decisions and your life will become even more complicated. Once you know who you are as a single person, you can think about a healthy relationship.
• Don’t try to do it on your own. Moving on after divorce is a scary process, and can leave you feeling lonely and alone. There is nothing wrong with admitting you need help, whether with your children, with finances, with home issues or just someone to talk to.
• Consider a makeover. It doesn’t have to be anything major, maybe a new haircut, a new outfit or a trip to a masseuse or spa. Making yourself feel good on the outside won’t really change how you feel about your divorce on the inside, but it can give you the boost of confidence you need right now.
• As busy as you surely are, make time for fun in your life. You needn’t spend lots of money, rather look for ways you can have fun for little or no money. Fly a kite in the park, have a picnic, look through the newspaper for free classes or visit your local library.
The attorneys of The Law Place understand the emotions associated with your divorce, and can give you additional tips on how to successfully move forward. When you need an experienced, knowledgeable legal professional, call The Law Place and get the help you need and deserve.